Smarter Dating for Women

Have you ever scratched your head wondering why a guy simply couldn’t be honest with you?

Well, you’re not alone. In fact, dishonesty is the #1 reason why most single women have such a tough time with men and dating.

Today’s video discusses the 3 reasons why a man will lie to a woman. Knowing these three reasons will not make a man lie. Any last, but it will help you in understanding and recognizing a man so that you know he’s not the kind of guy for you to be in a relationship with.

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Hope it helps!

Much Love,

Joe

Have you ever come on too strong, and pushed the guy away because he thought you were a little too needy.

There’s a fine line between showing interest a guy in coming across as desperate.

In this video, you’ll learn three simple steps which will get a guy to reciprocate the interests while also showing him you are not desperate for his attention.

Enjoy!

Much Love,

Joe

Hi Joe,

I don’t have a problem attracting men, but my pattern is to go after the “pretty boy.” I have always been this way. I ended up marrying one and was married for 11 years. I am now single and find myself getting to know men that are very attractive. How can I or should I get past what a person looks like and get to know them first? Don’t I have to be physically attracted to them to have any kind of relationship with them?

Shelli

Hi Shelli,

thanks for your question. You bring up something that is very common for a lot of single women. As human beings we are very visual creatures, and the world we live in often stresses how important the physical appearance is.

You say you have no problem attracting men and that tend to go after the “pretty boys.” my question to you is, how has this been working for you in your life? Do you find that you are meeting the quality of men that you are looking for? Do these pretty boys bring you joy and happiness consistently in your relationships with them? Or or do they tend leave you feeling empty and with a broken heart?

If you’re going to be in a relationship with a guy you absolutely have to be attracted to him. But realize this, looks simply open up the door. It is the essence of a man, who he is as a person and how he treat you as his partner that will ultimately determine how happy and fulfilled you are in your relationship with him.

Now if going after the pretty boys, causes you to be with men who have great looking packages, but who come up short on the contents you might want to reconsider your level of physical standards.

I have three suggestions that will help you in finding an attractive guy who  who will also give you all of the other things that you’re looking for so that you can have the guy who is satisfying to both your eyes and your heart.

1)  Get clear on your Checklist for Love – if you’re going to be in a committed relationship with a guy you must know what is it that you must have in order for you to be happy and fulfilled. Physical attraction is simply one of the boxes on your Checklist for Love. Once you are clear on what is on your list it will be easy to recognize when a guy has all of the things which are important to you.

The important thing in designing your checklist for love is to understand the difference between the things you want vs. the things you need. Generally, the Checklist for Love, has 10 or fewer items. If you find in making your list, then you have more than 10 it means you need to learn how to differentiate between what you want and what you need.

2) Learn How to Date – from this point out, consider dating as a probation period. It is your job to date a guy to see if he is even worth being in a relationship with. Give yourself an arbitrary period of time, it could be five dates, five weeks for five months. It really makes no difference. But what is important, is that you use this period of time to get to know a guy. This will help you to focus not only on the attraction, but also on those other important qualities that you must have in order for you to be happy and fulfilled.

3) Postpone Sex – just like physical attraction, sexual chemistry and compatibility is in an essential component of a relationship. However, for many women having sex too soon tends to cloud their judgment and lose their sense of objectivity. If you’re the type of woman who has a hard time separating your emotions from sex, it would serve you well to wait a little while before having sex with a guy you’re interested in. You can have sex during the probation period, just make sure it’s towards the end.

Following these guidelines will help you get to know a guy without focusing only on his looks.

Hope this helps!

Much Love,

Joe

For many women, there are patterns which are working against them in their love lives. Unfortunately for most of these women, they are not aware that these patterns even exist. And if they are, they don’t know what to do to get rid of them..

In today’s video you will learn a simple strategy for learning how to recognize your pattern.

To learn that strategy
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Enjoy!

Much Love,

Joe

Kate, one of the members of our Smarter Dating community recently posted a question on our FB page and it was such a good question I decided to turn it into today’s post.

If you have a history of falling in love quickly only to find out soon after that the guy was Mr. Wrong you might want to watch this video.

Hope it helps!

enjoy!

Much Love,

Joe

PS, if you have a specific question that you want answered make sure to send it to me.

More often than not, especially in our relationships. We use optimism as camouflage to keep us from really dealing with our fears.

If you’ve ever been in a relationship where you were consistently unhappy, but found yourself making excuses to make yourself feel better. You Might want to watch this video.

Otherwise, there is a strong chance that the same scenario presented itself you would do the same thing.

Watch this video to recognize common signs , which will help you identify when your optimism isn’t real.

Much Love,

Joe

When it comes to your love life and your interaction with guys do you act like a woman or do you act like a girl?

Your initial reaction is to say you’re a woman. But I want you to take an honest look at your life, especially your relationships.

Just for the next few minutes I want you to step out of your life and look at it as if you were an observer. What would you see?

Would you see and older mature female who has learned from her mistakes? Or would you see a girl who keeps repeating them? Continue reading →

Is there something that you are embarrassed to tell the men you date?  Is there something you are afraid of telling a guy because you know that if you do he is going to run for the hills?

Even though your heart knows the right guy MUST love you for who you are, your mind knows that we live in a very judgmental world and revealing your secret before a guy gets to really know you may not be the smartest thing.

Alexandra, a member of the Smarter dating community recently asked for advice on when she should reveal her medical condition to the guys she dates.

I am the first one to preach honesty, but sometimes it makes more sense to let some time pass before opening up completely.

To hear my recommendations watch this video:

Enjoy!

Much Love,

Joe

PS. Please make sure to post your questions or comments below. We read every one!

He doesn’t call when he says he will…    

You don’t trust him….

You can’t trust him…

You know he lies to you….

He’s says its your fault…

You cry more than you smile… Continue reading →

5 dates?  Two weeks?  3 months? Not until you’re in a committed relationship?

How long should you wait before having sex with a guy?

I have heard women use each of the above guidelines to decide when she is ready to have sex with a guy.

I believe that a woman should have a preconceived idea that works, but more importantly there is a guideline that I recommend which is much more important than the actual number of days or dates.

To find out what that guideline is watch today’s Smarter Dating tip

Hope It Helps.

Much Love,

Joe

PS. what are your thoughts?  Do you agree with today’s tip? Disagree? Do u have a method that is working for you?  Have you made the mistake of sleeping with a guy too soon?  Please share your thoughts and comments below.