Last week was a tough week, a really tough week. Experiencing the death of Natalie’s grandmother and seeing how the family dealt with the loss of a woman who had been a central figure in their lives was a very challenging and emotional task. By the end of the week I was fried…physically and emotionally. So I decided to take the weekend off and recharge my batteries.
But I promised myself that on Monday morning I would come back to life and hit the ground running. SO this morning I set the alarm clock extra early and when it went off I decided to go for a walk in the crisp cool air.
As I was walking around thinking about all of the things I wanted to accomplish this week and what I would be talking about in the smarter dating community, I had a thought flash (Note***thought flash is the term I use when I have moments of divine inspiration/guidance).
As I looked down at the ground I saw the headline of today’s paper jumping out at me. It read…”Cleared for Takeoff”.
I immediately thought of all the members of our Smarter Dating community who continue to struggle in their love lives. And I thought back to that time, several years ago where I continued to struggle. My relationship to my ex-fiancee was “cancelled” and there was a part of me that wasn’t thrilled about getting back on a plane again. That relationship crashed and burned and the last thing I wanted to do was go “flying” again.
I was tired of all the delays. I was tired of investing my time, energy and money only to find out I would never arrive at the destination I was really looking for.
Internally I had a hesitation about “flying” again. But there was a voice inside of me that KNEW if I gave up I would never find what I was really looking for.
And if you’re reading this there is a part of you that may be a lil hesitant as well. Maybe you’ve had your luggage lost? Maybe you were hoping to go to Disneyworld but once you landed you found out you were in Detroit.
Or even worse…you were on the “flight” of your dreams…everything was going great, you were having the time of your life. You were envisioning how great life would be once “you landed” but then, out of the blue the engine exploded and the plane crashed and burned, leaving you emotionally scarred. It took all of your strength just to survive the crash, right?
of course these examples are metaphors but they’re all similar to your love life aren’t’ they?
Well, the good news is that no matter how bad things may have been. No matter how bad the hurt has been….you SURVIVED!
No matter how bad things got…YOU SURVIVED! and that in and of itself is a cause for celebration.
And yes, getting back a “plane” again may scare the crap out of you. You wouldn’t be human if it didn’t.
But the one thing I have noticed that differentiates those who go on to have the great relationships is that they find the inner strength to get back on the plane and take another chance.
Because at the end of the day once you land at your heart’s destination all of those unhappy & fulfilling trips….Don’t Matter! They become nothing but funny and embarrassing memories and stories to look over and laugh at.
So, if today’s blog hits home realize the the only thing you need to do from here is to give yourself permission to take off! and once you do…get back on a plane. Just make sure you check out the airline before you buy a ticket!
And if you still find you’re stuck and are having a hard time letting go I invite you to post your questions or comment below.
We’re here to help!