Do Guys Like Bitches?

The other day while reading through one of the responses in our survey I came across 5 simple words from one of our Smarter Dating members. Those 5 words were “Do guys really like bitches?”

Well, since I haven’t been elected as the spokesman for the whole male gender I can’t speak for every guy on the planet. But since I’ve been filled w/testosterone and my hormones have been raging since my early teens I think I can give you some pretty good insight into what it is that guys, or should I say “MEN” really want.

Now before I give you some great insight I want you to realize that these words coming from a woman are the equivalent of the “nice guys finish last” statement that many men espouse.

Are there some guys out there who are attracted to women who walk all over them? Absolutely, I’ve known a lot of them. And to be honest, I had a relationship back in my late twenties and early thirties where I was involved with a world class b*tch!

It was one of the biggest learning experiences of my life. I learned more about myself, relationships and what I did and didn’t want from that one relationship than I did in almost all of my other relationships combined.

So, anyone who says there aren’t some guys who are attracted to b*thces is either delusional or lying.

When I was in my mid-twenties I was friends with one of a guy who had it all externally. He was genetically gifted by the gods. he was tall, dark and handsome and had the perfect body…and he knew it.

I could work out 3 times a day and eat alfalfa sprouts and I would never have the physical appearance of this guy. He was the typical “ladies man” and he knew how to play the game to get what he wanted.

In fact, he once told me, “The worse you treat a woman, the more she will want you.” I didn’t believe it. I was raised to respect all people, not just women.

Growing up in my house I was ingrained with the “Golden Rule”, ie, to treat others the way you want to be treated. So buying into the belief that you could get a woman to like you if you treated her like sh*t not only didn’t make sense logically, it didn’t make sense morally.

But my buddy was living proof of this! The things he said and the things he did to get his way with women was mind boggling. And what was even more confusing was how many of these women allowed themselves to be subjected to his disrespectful behavior.

The worse he treated women the more they kissed his ass and chased him.  It was almost comical.

It’s the same scenario you see when a guy allows a woman to walk all over him.

You see when it comes to men, women and dating…the circus is the same but the clowns are different!

You have some women who are attracted to the “bad boys” and you have some men who are attracted to the “bitches”. It has always been like this  and it will always be like that.

Anyone who denies this is wearing rose colored glasses and is living in fantasyland.

Those individuals who are attracted to mates who continually disrespect and dishonor them are suffering from self esteem and self worth issues and are not well suited to be in a relationship.

Yes, they may convince themselves that things are better than they appear to be (especially in the beginning) but isn’t it ironic that these types of relationships NEVER lead to long term happiness.

I remember saying to myself that if I had to be an a**hole in order to make a woman like me than that was not the kind of woman I wanted to be in a relationship with.

Would you really wan to be with a man if you had to be a bitch to keep him?

Would you want to be in a relationship with a guy who treated you like crap?

You deserve better and you know it!

So, if you’ve ever wondered if you’re too nice and you should become more of a bitch to get a guy my response is…. “NO!”

Because the only guy who would want to be with a bitch is not a MAN. And the only way you can have the relationship you really want is to get involved with a MAN and not a boy!