If you’ve ever dated a guy who suddenly put on the brakes when you thought you were on the road to love you are going to love this video.
In it you will learn what a guy really means when he says things are going “too fast”.
If you have a question about men, dating or relationships that you would like addressed in a video make sure you post it below…it might just show up as the next Smarter Dating tip!
Enjoy!
Much Love,
Joe
Thanks alot Joe for this piece. I was about to email you in this when i decided to scroll through to see if any videos were done.
I have been with him for roughly three months, we both have kids and we work together. We have made plan for our future together including the kids. He has been burned before and is really cautious. I broke his trust by telling one girl at the office. He wanted to keep our relation a secret to avoid gossip. He is a private person.
We only speak at work and not on weekends because he is busy, we have been out twice but have spend some time alone after work.
We did both notice that we were on a fast train and decided to slow down. Now he finds all faults with me: I’m too friendly with the others guys at work, I should keep my friends down to a minimum at work, my ethic should be work only no games. An incident occurred at the office where one of my co-workers (male) took my jacket and hid it from me. My BF told me that i encouraged that kind of behaviour because i was too friendly.
I keep an open communication line with him, not everything i find fault in him i will say, however if its something i don’t like, i won’t hesitate to tell him. Now everything he finds faults in me he does not say even though i ask, its frustrates me.
All things you said in this video is exactly what i was doing, now that i have a better understanding i will leave him be.
Thanks Dr.Joe
Katrina,
Do you accept his behavior and explanation b/c it really is “fine” w/you or you accept it because if you don’t you would have to make choices and decisions you don’t want to make because you are afraid of the consequences?
And if you tell a guy you expect communication and he doesn’t communicate w/you in over 4 days what does that tell you?
Much Love,
Joe
Thanks Joe! I feel like I’m going through this situation right now. I’ve been out with this guy 8-9 times and we always have a really good time when we hang out, but then in the days after the date I don’t hear anything from him. I told him I felt like I was getting mixed signals and he said that he was just “moving at a snail’s pace”. That’s fine with me, and I told him I just expect communication. 4 days later and I still haven’t haven’t heard from him.
Hi Joe! That information was very helpful; thank you so much for your explanation. I was wondering if you could address this topic: “A guy needs to feel that he’s earned you/worked to get you”. I understand the concept that we value what we’ve worked for- but I’d appreciate a more in-depth explanation from a man. I feel as a woman that I do not want to have to earn a man’s love or work endlessly to get his affection. I want to just be loved! So, why do men feel differently? Thanks.